Principles for Peace

“Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but not their own facts.”

-Daniel Patrick Moynihan

Are you thinking more positive and accurate?  Hasn’t this been an amazing series!  I have learned so much from you my readers in this discussion.  You  have helped me to better train my mind in the areas of accurate and positive thinking.  Thank you!  Just a few more thinking errors to discuss.  Don’t forget that as we learn these errors it’s crucial to replace them with accurate thinking when you catch them.  Your attempts at first my be a little weak, but with practice you will become a pro at accurate thinking.

In reality, a positive attitude is one of the foundations for accurate thinking.  However, working to eliminate thinking errors and replacing them with accurate thinking certainly helps you to think positive.  They both go hand in hand.

If you feel something does that make it true? Read More »

“Oh that I had the wings of a dove I would fly away and be at rest.”  - Psalms 55:6

Last weekend I attended the funeral of my husband’s grandma.  It was a sad occasion, but also a happy occasion as we released her on into her heavenly home.  She was a beautiful Christian lady with a very positive attitude.  She was ALWAYS happy and encouraged  others to be as well.  She signed all cards that she sent everyone with “Be happy” at the end.  She knew that happiness was a Read More »

Have you ever been blamed for something you did not do?  Have you ever blamed someone else for something they did not do?  Have you ever blamed someone for making you mad or miserable?

We have taken quite a long break from our thinking error series because there were other things that I wanted to write about.  We’re coming back to this very powerful series because it is just that - VERY POWERFUL - if learned and mastered.  Somehow when I really see these for what they are - LIES - that really helps me to avoid them.  I think to myself, Read More »

“A man who does not think for himself does not think at all” - Oscar Wilde

Do you ever just stop to think?

I have a confession to make.  I have a bad habit. It’s called thinking. Well okay, it’s not really a bad habit, but I sure do a lot of it these days. I used to just take everything as I “knew” it to be.  Now, I’m constantly thinking - thinking about how to improve my life, improve my thinking.  Everything I do originates with my thoughts so improvement must start there.

Last week after writing my last post on the realities we create for ourselves and after attending the last lesson of another SFT seminar simply to hone my skills, I went into deep thought and decided to conduct an experiment.  I began to think about how we all view the world from our own set of rose colored glasses.  This can be good, bad or neutral.  Every time we see something or someone, every time an event happens Read More »

Before we get into this week’s thinking errors…..

This week marks a very exciting time for me.  Since I changed my blog to WordPress my plan from the very beginning was to add an online bookstore and coffee shop here.  I wanted a place where people could come and grow in a relaxing environment - a place where people would feel welcome and where they could sip on some coffee while they read.  In case you haven’t figured it out yet, I love bookstores and coffee shops.  They are just so relaxing to me.

While there are still many more changes to come here, Read More »

As we continue our discussion of thinking errors and how to change our life by changing our thinking it’s important to remember that thinking errors are lies - lies we tell ourselves.  And lies never bring about anything good.  We get ourselves into a very tangled mess when we participate in them.

If you missed the first three posts in this series you’ll want to be sure and check them out here:

Labeling and Jumping to conclusions

Filtering Out the Positive and polarized thinking

Overgeneralization

So let’s move on to discuss two more thinking errors in  which many people participate:

6.  Mind reading:  Concluding what others think and do without proof or being told by them

Who knows your thoughts?  Only you and God.  Who knows someone’s else’s thoughts?  Only that person and God.  Saying you know someone else’s thoughts is nothing more than false.  Mind reading gets into people’s Read More »

Before we begin the discussion of overgeneralizing, I wanted to say:

A Word of Thanks:

I don’t know about you, but I sure have learned a lot from this thinking error series.  Not only have I learned a lot from writing about the errors, but I have learned so much from you, my readers and commenters as you have helped to shed a different light on some of the errors.

As I was writing the last post, the more I wrote the more I realized that I engaged in the polarized thinking more than I thought I did.  Coming up with examples was really helpful to me.  And your comments caused me to think even further.

Thanks to Lance and Evelyn for their excellent discussion of Read More »

This week we will continue our series on thinking errors.  If you haven’t yet read the post on labeling and jumping to conclusions then I encourage you to begin there.  I thought it would be best to keep these thinking errors to two to three errors per post so that they would have the greatest impact.  Learning about them is one thing, but knowing them intimately and mastering accurate thinking is the only way this information will make a difference in your life.

So let’s take a look at the next thinking errors:

3. Filtering out the positive in order to point out the negative

With this error people have a “filter” in their mind that only catches the negative.  The positive slides right Read More »